What an insane finale of The Bachelor tonight. But I’m going to throw out a bomb here despite all that was revealed tonight: I don’t buy it. I mean, I know Chris chose Whitney and claims to love her and that he’s ready to move forward. I saw it all unfold. But there’s not an ounce of me that actually feels like he’s in “once in a lifetime love” with her. I see almost no chemistry by him for her. I think he made the safe decision because she was clearly ready to give him everything that he wanted. And the things that she was willing to give him were the exact things that he said he wanted. Except for one small detail – he isn’t in love with her. Ugh, it was almost painful to watch. Am I the only one that felt this way? I admit to not being the biggest Whitney fan. Her speeches were just way too over the top for me. I felt like I was listening to a sales pitch for Farmer’s Wife of the year. She could have been trying to sell make-up or facial cream and the little speech she gave his family at their dinner – it was pageant-like. I don’t know. Then again, she had the whole family in tears, so maybe they all did feel it for them. I’m not Chris and he’s the one making the calls obviously. If he loves Whitney even a speck of the way that she loves him, then I’m very happy for them and wish them all the best. I do think that she’s the only one who honestly wants to be on that farm for the long term. I also think that Becca is a smart and strong woman for sticking to her guns and not getting caught up in the whole Bachelor la-la land. I’m sure she could have had Chris if she said the magic words – that she was ready and in love and moving to the farm. Which makes you wonder how Whitney can be so confident in what they have when he’s so clearly ready to jump on the Becca train if she gave him a hint of being in it to win it.
I kept hoping, wondering, finger-crossing – please oh please, let Becca have that epiphany moment before it’s too late. Turn that limo around. Let her show up after the finale to admit that she made a mistake. That it had been love all along. She’s a Virgin. I mean how is she supposed to know these things when there’s nothing to compare it to? She’s a Virgin in both mind and body. Give her a break. Give her some time. But no, there’s Whitney and she’s ready to basically give birth on the stage to Chris’s future children. I thought that Chris’s mother (who I love with all of my heart) gave Becca some wise advice. Everything that she was feeling for Chris was love. She just didn’t recognize it. Meanwhile, Whitney’s not just shopping for a farm and a farmer. She needs a mom, a dad and more siblings. Have I mentioned how irritating I found her speeches?
But OK, so Becca never came back for Chris but I thought – well maybe if Chris pulls a “Jason Mesnick” and decides at the After the Final Rose that Whitney really wasn’t the one and it was Sweet Becca all along – well that would really be something. But no, Whitney is still in the picture and her hair is still in her face, so I am not 100% sure what she looks like without all the tresses and make-up. She’s extremely nervous on the After the Final Rose just as she was at the proposal. I just didn’t see much reassurance from Chris except for their kissing, which seemed almost obligatory. She’s absolutely glowing and excited. He looked moderately nauseous and pale. Maybe too much powder for the cameras?
I don’t know. I mean, I’m just really confused about these two. Even the chemistry between Chris and Becca at the After the Final Rose was so palpable, so natural. Did you see her awesome pink dress after that amazing red velvet dress at the final rose ceremony? She’s smokin’ hot, even if slightly monotone and she’s smart and cool and not a pushover. I almost thought he might actually just go in and give Becca a kiss at the After the Final Rose – in front of everyone. Not caring what the world thought. He just had to have Becca. He was (is) totally in love with her and I think Becca might feel the same. Is it too late to think these two could still make it work? Becca is the sanest girl this show has ever had – she really likes Chris. She’s just not ready to commit to a complete change in lifestyle, on a farm, to a man she’s only know for a couple of months. Can anyone really blame her?
So Chris Harrison promises us shocking news. I was sure that Whitney got pregnant or they were going to have a spontaneous wedding. Or Becca was going to declare her loss of virginity AND pregnancy by Chris. But alas, none of this happened. Instead, we’ve got TWO BACHELORETTES??? What?? Is this the beginning of the end of The Bachelor franchise? Why would they do this? The show has such a great formula now that actually works, why are they making it a circus? I think Kaitlyn would have been a great solo bachelorette. How pissed are the girls that they have to share the spotlight? And logistically, how will this work without it turning into a semi season of Bachelor Pad? I don’t want to see Britt and Kaitlyn making out in a hot tub with multiple guys. It’s just too strange. It does open up a set of new possibilities and doubles the chances of a successful relationship taking place, but it’s sort of insulting to the women that neither was deemed special enough to carry the show on her own. Obviously, I’m interested to see how they’ll handle this new format.
As for Jade the Porn Star, I finally figured out that she reminds me of a grown up Winnie Cooper from The Wonder Years. I also thought for a second that they were going to choose Ashley S as The Bachelorette, but then that would have really turned that show into a spiral of sidekick humor, never to recover.
On a very very very bright note, my little baby girl is turning ONE tomorrow (which will be today in a few minutes). That’s right. This time, 1 year ago, I had just finished a PF Chang’s spicy frozen dinner and was off to bed. 24 hours later, I was holding my new born baby girl, Ellie Lila Wanicur, in a hospital bed while watching Juan Pablo’s season of The Bachelor while trying to breastfeed!! How does a year go by so fast? It’s like I blinked and someone pressed fast forward x4 on my remote control. Now my tiny, delicate newborn bundle is a clapping, crawling, babbling, exploring, smiley, screaming, eating machine. A real person who is interested in every last thing around her. I’m taking the day off tomorrow to celebrate with her. We’ll be saying “cheers” with waffles at 8 AM at our local 24 hour diner. Anyone is welcome to join. I’ll be posting lots of pictures of her birthday back on this blog.
In other news – please keep an eye out for news on my e-book, which is coming out late spring / early summer 2015. This will be a short story version of the story of how The Husband and I got together. Until then, you can follow my articles at Thought Catalog here: http://thoughtcatalog.com/stacey-becker
As always, thanks for joining me on this crazy Bachelor ride. I hope to hear your thoughts on tonight’s show, the choice of multiple Bachelorettes and what you’re planning to watch in the “off season.” We start back again on May 18th, but check back here for regular Bachelor related and Stacey B related updates. Happy almost spring (and happy birthday, ELLIE!!!!)